Cel, I suspect if you're here you've also checked out Gamasutra.com, but it's definitely a great resource. IGDA also has a great deal of information about game development. If you live in a somewhat large city, you probably have a chapter in your area that you could attend meetings and events with. Buy a student's membership (if you're a student), it's only $30 and it's worth it no matter what you plan to do in the industry.
Also, check out some print and online game magazines. All different types, from the big names to the independents. Get different perspectives of what is accepted as game journalism.
As for your gender, it's not going to hold you back unless you let it. It may even help you because many studios at least realize the value of a female perspective, and I imagine the same could be true for game magazines.